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Moms, Stop Being Catty

Uh oh.

I’m dusting off that old wooden soapbox and taking my place atop it, fired up about a topic that really, really gets my goat every time.

Totally off topic, where do those random phrases come from? “Gets my goat, stuck in my craw, etc…” Yeah, I guess I need to research that.

Anywho, back to my soapbox issue.

I’m a stay-at-home mom and I know that many of you are, too.

So, SAHMs of the world, unite with me in screaming from the rooftops:

WHAT I DO IS A FULL TIME JOB!!

It’s a full time job and then some, right?

So where do people get off, especially women who work, in assuming that stay at home moms have tons of time on their hands, and maybe (dare I say it?) don’t actually DO anything?

Grrrr.

I’m annoyed. Can you tell?

More than once this week I’ve had different women make offhanded comments about me having tons of time, eating bon-bons, taking naps, and not having to “work” because I’m a SAHM.

Ye-ouch. Yeah, that gets me fighting mad because you know as well as I do that their idea of what a stay-at-home mom does is far from reality.

Because not only am I a full time mom, maid, cook, laundress, teacher, babysitter, nurse, shopper, imagination leader, disciplinarian, tutor, housekeeper, chauffeur, coach, and wife (yeah, that’s a whole other set of duties), I’m also a full time writer, bookkeeper, volunteer, room mom, and yeah, occasionally I like to work in a few hobbies, like reading.

I’ve been a working mom. I DO have the experience to compare the two worlds and I will tell you that without a doubt, I had far more time for things when I had a paying job.

SAHMs- have you ever noticed that because you stay home, the people who assume you have tons of time actually call on you MORE in order to get stuff done? More positions at church need filling. More school functions need desserts and bodies to man tables. More volunteer organizations want you.

Wonderful. I’ve had to learn how to say no, because if I didn’t, I’d never actually get to see my family.

Yeah, I’m ranting. I’m ranting on behalf of the zillions of women who are stay-at-home moms.

The moral of the story: It’s not a competition.

The vast majority of moms that I know work really hard, whether they stay home with their kids or only get to see their kids after work and on weekends. It’s not a contest. Being a woman is an over-worked, under appreciated position, but one that has more joy in it than we women often take advantage of.

So ladies, instead of looking down on each other for our career choices and positions in life, why not build each other up?

Have you told a SAHM you know how much her kids will appreciate her? Have you told a working mom you know how much her kids will appreciate her? Have you told either of them what a good job she is doing?

Reach across the aisle, SAHMs and Working Moms. Unite under the banner of motherhood, because it’s a great place to be.

Share with me: Do you have hot-button issues that really make you nuts?

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