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The Christian Atheist: Do You Believe in Prayer?

Do you pray?

What does it sound like?

Is is a prayer you learned as a child, one recited for a specific purpose?

Is it a self-created prayer, but mentions the same topics in the same order every time?

Is it a different prayer uttered in a different way every time you pray?

When do you pray? Morning? Before meals? Before bed? Daily? On Sundays? Only when you’re really in need?

Do these things even matter– the words you say and the frequency with which you say them, or is prayer really about what’s in your heart?

According to Craig Groeschel’s The Christian Atheist, there exists an entire group of Christians, those who build their lives around their belief in Jesus Christ, who either don’t pray at all, or when they do, believe that prayer isn’t effective.

When I first began reading the chapter on prayer, it blew my mind, mostly because I am a HUGE believer in prayer. In fact, for years I’ve lived my life in a purposeful state of constant prayer.

I pray at specific times of the day, sure, like before meals and before bed, but I strive to have a constant and open communication with God. I pray all the time. About everything. I rarely say “Amen” because I want that heart-line to be open all the time.

But that’s just me.

My husband isn’t like that at all.

He is a strong, God-fearing, Bible believing man who was saved by grace at a young age and has lived his entire adult life as a follower of Jesus Christ.

But he was raised in a very traditional Southern Baptist church. The kind that banned certain types of music in the teenage population and brought in pastors to evangelize hellfire and brimstone.

For him, prayer was boring. It was ritualistic. It was used to scare the life out of others. It was done by those who constantly threw in the “thees” and “thous” and communicated with God like he was the “great and powerful” wizard behind the curtain.

My husband once admitted to me that he wasn’t really sure if God cared about his prayers.

“With war and cancer and people who have real problems, why would God care about the things I pray about?”

This conversation came after we’d been married nearly a decade. For all that time, I’d had no idea that my husband struggled to believe in a powerful prayer life.

And he is not alone.

So many struggle with the idea of prayer– that it’s about the eloquence of your words or the length of the prayer itself.

Surely those who are more “holy” are heard by God first. Surely those who love to pray aloud are those who are heard by God.

But as Groschel points out, there are ways for those who struggle with the power of prayer to realize that prayer changes everything.

It’s about realizing what prayer is and to whom it is.

Realize who you are talking to. The God of the universe. The one who is I Am. The creator. The Savior.

It can feel a bit overwhelming. What do you say to the God of the universe? Whatever you want because here’s the really cool part– He wants to hear from you. He’s excited to hear from you!

Move the focus from yourself onto God. Realize that you are talking to a friend who wants the honesty of your heart– He desires time with you.

When you change your perspective on who you are talking to (the God of the universe) and why (because he wants to hear from you), it helps you to realize that every thought, fear, joy and pain you experience is a treasure to him, and he wants you to talk to him about it.

God wants honesty. He wants you to be real with him. He wants truth. He wants your heart with or without the “thees and thous”.

 “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words.” Matt 6: 5, 7

And that’s what prayer is– an honest conversation with the God who created you and knows you by name.

If you feel like prayer just doesn’t make a difference, pray about everything on your heart. God will answer. Maybe not all at once, maybe not quickly. But when he does, you’ll never doubt that prayer works.

I love the verse below because Jesus tells us that prayer works. But he also reminds us that when we pray, we must have a heart that is free from unforgiveness and hatred.

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” Mark 11:24-25

Prayer is powerful. Prayer changes things. And more than that, it changes people.

And the best part is that God wants to hear from you.

He doesn’t care about the words you use. He doesn’t care about whether or not your prayers are eloquent and well thought out.

What he cares about is that you take the time to talk to him and that you talk to him honestly.

It’s that simple.

There is so much more wonderful information in this chapter, but I leave you with one of my favorite comedians and his hilarious take on staunch, strict prayer.

Hopefully it will give you a chuckle and help you to remember that prayer is for everyone, no matter what.

I pray for you that you’ll find the joy in the power of prayer.

 

Share with me: How can I pray for you this week?

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The Guilt of Being Pregnant

When I found out that I was pregnant with this new baby, I was in a state of disbelief for the first few days.

I just couldn’t believe that the fertility drugs had worked– in the first round.

Then I had a whole bunch of other emotions, the same ones other women feel when they find out they are pregnant: excitement, happiness, nervousness, thrill, and anticipation. I had ’em all.

And then came the strongest emotion of all– GUILT.

“How can you feel guilty?” you might ask.

Because infertility is an epidemic in this generation— one that affects more women than you realize. And for me personally, it has touched not only my life, but the lives of several women I know.

Many of them have been trying for a long, long time to get pregnant.

So I feel guilt. Guilt because it happened for me. Guilt because this is my third child and many of my friends don’t even have one– and they are desperate to have one.

Some of my friends have gone the route of adoption and are now waiting. Some of them are still going through fertility treatments. Some of them are just starting on this road of infertility, realizing that after two or three years of trying, they just can’t get pregnant without medical help.

And while I understand all of these issues and have been through many of them myself, I am blessed that God has answered this prayer for me.

But I don’t understand– why me and not them?

Please understand, readers, that I am thrilled beyond all measure that God has chosen to answer our prayer, and I pray for a healthy pregnancy and a beautiful, perfect little person to join our family. I can’t wait, actually. I’m giddy about it.

But I know exactly what it feels like when you’re trying to get pregnant and can’t, but it seems like everyone around you can.

What a punch in the gut it is.

I remember when a friend at church announced her pregnancy right when I was in the middle of our infertility struggle before our second child. I wanted to walk out of Sunday school that day. I wanted to punch her in the face. She already had a kid. In fact, she had just had a kid and now her second was on the way?? How was this fair?

And then another friend got pregnant. And another. And another. Until it seemed like everyone was pregnant. But not me.

At the time I thought, “why not me?”

I know that anger, frustration, and jealousy. None of it’s right, but knowing it’s not right to feel that way doesn’t stop the feelings from coming. They come. Like a raging typhoon, they come.

At that time, it was a real struggle for me to overcome those feelings. I had to overcome. If I didn’t, I risked letting those negative emotions overwhelm me.

What I eventually had to do was train myself– whenever I felt that anger or frustration, I would stop whatever I was doing and pray for those women who were pregnant. I’d pray for their healthy pregnancies and babies, and that they’d be godly parents and raise their children to follow the Lord. I’d pray even if I didn’t feel like praying.

Sometimes I prayed a little like this:

“God, I’m angry. I want to be pregnant. I don’t understand why I’m not or what your plan is, but God, I’m going to trust. So bless those other women and their babies. Bless them and give them the eyes to see just what a miracle they have.”

After a few weeks of doing this, my chest was a little lighter, my soul a little more relieved, my joy for others more abundant. I still fought those negative emotions, but the fight was a little easier. I was getting stronger.

And now I face the monster of guilt because God has answered my prayer but so many of my friends are still waiting.

But guilt isn’t right either. So I’m going to replace it.

Every time I feel guilty, it’s going to be a reminder to stop whatever I’m doing and pray specifically for those women I know who are struggling. I’m going to pray for them, encourage them, and do whatever I can to help them through this time.

Because I’ve been there. And it’s not a fun place to be.

Share with me: How can I pray for you this week?

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The Promise When Words Aren’t Enough

We hope for what we don’t have yet. So we are patient as we wait for it. In the same way, the Holy Spirit helps us when we are weak. We don’t know what we should pray for. But the Spirit himself prays for us. He prays with groans too deep for words. Romans 8:25-26 (NIrV)

As writers, we love words.

We love what they mean, how they sound, what they convey, how they flow in combination, the feelings they provoke, the stories they tell.

But there are times when words just aren’t enough.

There are times when words, no matter the combination or the intention or the meaning, cannot do justice to the depth of the emotion within.

There are times when even we, the ones who manipulate words for a living, can’t find the right ones to express the innermost thoughts and desires of our soul.

So we bask in the promise that the Holy Spirit, the one who dwells within us and sanctifies us, knows how to convey even our sighs and groans (AMP Bible) as prayers to the Holy one.

Praying over this verse brings peace in times of heartache, but also in times of joy, when our hearts are too full to describe what we’re feeling.

What a comfort it is to know that one so much more powerful than I, one who IS God, knows me well enough to convey the prayers I can’t even think of.

It’s beautiful. It’s overwhelming. It’s calming. It’s a promise.

And it makes it a whole lot easier to wait patiently in hope for what we do not have yet.

Share with me: What verses or promises has God been giving you lately?

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