To Watch My Son Die

My son came home from school one day recently and told me that a little boy in his class was being mean to him.

I reacted how all mothers would react–I wanted to rush right back into that school and rip that mean little boy’s head off for hurting my baby.

Of course, I didn’t do it.

I’ve always understood the story of the Nativity, but I don’t think I ever really appreciated it until I became a mother.

Suddenly I can relate to Mary as she eagerly anticipated the birth of her first child. The nerves about becoming a mother. The uncertainty of raising a child. The difficulties they’d face financially. The worry over whether or not she’d be able to do it–raise a child according to the laws of God.

And add on top of that all the extras that she and Joseph faced–like raising the Son of God, and as a mother, I can relate to her fears and anxieties.

Mary must have been a strong woman. Granted, she was raising the only kid on earth who never sinned (can you imagine that?? He cleaned his room each time she asked with no arguing!!) 🙂  What a blessing to know that she was following the commandment of God–that she was the one chosen to bring God in man’s form to the world.

Mary must have been a strong woman.

She brought the son of God into the world.

She watched her son die.

Imagine it–watching your baby grow and develop into the son of God, the man that would change the world for all time.  Feel the love Mary felt for her child–the earthly bond between mother and son. The bond between mother and child.

Mary’s instinct must have been to protect him at all costs.

And yet, Mary had to stand by and watch her son as he was tormented, jeered, beaten, scoffed, bruised, and ultimately killed for the sins of all mankind.

I wanted to rip that other kid’s head off just for hurting my son’s feelings. Imagine what Mary wanted to do the day Jesus was crucified.

Imagine her pain. Imagine her torment as she watched all that occurred. Imagine knowing that she’d brought the son of God into the world–knowing that she was part of a bigger plan, yet unable to stop her son’s pain.

Imagine hearing the words, “Here is your mother,” as Jesus spoke them to John. Imagine knowing that even in death, her son was taking care of her.

Just thinking about it brings a pain to my heart so great, that I can’t think of Mary without thinking of my relationships with my own sons.

I know for certain that I could not stand by and watch them die. I would have been fighting, even if it was to beg God for mercy–to change the plan, to come up with something else, to sacrifice someone else’s son on behalf of the world.

But Mary didn’t do that. “I am the Lord’s servant. May it be to me as you have said.” She responded to the angel who brought the news of her pregnancy. She accepted God’s plan for her, surrendering her life, and the life of her unborn child, completely to the Lord.

In this Christmas season, may we remember Mary’s dedication to serving the Lord, even when it meant enduring the ultimate sacrifice with a mother’s heart–the death of her precious son for the sins of all mankind.

How much of ourselves are we willing to commit to the Lord, no matter the cost?

Share with me: What part of the nativity story touches you the most and why?

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Favorite Things Friday– Holiday Treats

Here are a few of my favorite (CHOCOLATE) holiday treats. And before you start thinking about calories and exercise and New Year’s resolutions–RELAX. 

Christmas calories don’t count.

– Dove Cinnamon Dusted Dark Chocolate Covered Almonds. 

I know my chocolate, and these are, by far, my most favorite holiday treat. I absolutely love them. And don’t worry, dark chocolate and nuts are both good for your heart and cinnamon helps regulate blood sugar, so these are a win-win-win! *They are also available in milk chocolate.

These are only available from Dove Chocolate Discoveries, the makers of all Dove chocolate, but this is their direct sales line of treats. Check out this link to order (and by the way, the rest of the products are FABULOUS, too). Melissa, my Dove Chocolatier, will be happy to help you. Tell her I said hi! Yeah, we’re totally on a first-name basis. 🙂
*The almonds are listed under the “Instant Gratification” section. Yeah, they are.

– Dove peppermint bark.

Why is it that chocolate wrapped in shimmery Christmas-colored paper tastes so delicious? Well, the “inspirations” on the inside of these wrappers make me feel better about myself when I eat them, so those esteem-inducing endorphins cancel out any calories. I’m sure of it.
These are available at all major grocery stores. 

– Chocolate-Peanut Butter Mallow Bars

Recipe Here
Not to deter you from trying these, but in my house, we call them Piggy Fat Bars. Mostly because I feel like a little, fat piggy when I eat them. They are delicious and don’t last long at holiday parties and family gatherings. 

– Truffle Cake with Candy Cane Cream

Recipe Here
I made this for a holiday party and not one smidgen of cake was left. Not even a tiny bite for me to carry home and savor later. It should make me happy that this was such a hit, but it just made me depressed that there were no leftovers. 

– Chinese New Year Cookies

These are one of my favorite treats from my childhood. I don’t think these are actually authentic to the Chinese New Year which usually falls in February, but that’s what we call them and we make them every Christmas season. This is an easy family recipe, so whip up a batch and enjoy!

1 bag semi-sweet morsels
1 bag butterscotch chips
1 can rice noodels
1 bag chow mein noodles
1 can peanuts

Melt semi-sweet morsels in double boiler. Add butterscotch chips and stir until melted and blended. Remove from heat. Add chow mein noodles, rice noodles, and peanuts. Mix until all are covered in the chocolate blend. Using spoon, form into cookies and drop onto cookie sheet. (I usually line my cookie sheet with wax paper for easy clean up.) Refrigerate until chocolate has hardened each cookie. Remove from tray and store in large zip-loc bag. I usually keep mine refrigerated as we work on eating them, but you don’t have to. I just like them cold.


Share with me: What are some of your favorite holiday treats?

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The Santa Debate–To Believe or Not To Believe?

 I believe in Santa Claus.

There, I said it, and I’m not ashamed.

The idea of the jolly man who slides down a chimney to bring toys to all of the good boys and girls of the world has created magic and the spirit of Christmas in me since I was a child.

And even when I found out that Santa wasn’t “real,” I still continued to believe in the “magic” of the Christmas season.

One of the things I looked forward to most about being a parent was using that magic to get to share the joy of Santa with my children.

Yet, although we love and believe in Santa in our house, we also emphasize the real meaning of Christmas, which is of course, the birth of our Savior. Without Christ’s birth, there would be no reason for Santa in the first place.

Christ is the most important in our home. He always will be and there is no doubt that it’s His birthday we celebrate. Yet, because He came to bring us salvation, we can celebrate with joy, even if that involves a little happy “magic.”

However, there are a LOT of parents in my generation who have chosen not to “do” Santa with their kids. Here are some of the reasons I’ve heard:

Some don’t because they feel that telling their children to believe in Santa is lying.

Some don’t because they believe that telling their children to believe in Santa equates with telling their children to believe in Jesus, and when one is discovered, there will be doubt in the other.

Some don’t because they don’t want to have to go through the trouble of Christmas Eve as Santa.

And others I know don’t because, “If I’m spending all this money on my kid, why should Santa get the all the credit?”

The second reason listed above is the one I hear most often, and I have to be honest, that one really has me puzzled. I’ll wait to share my opinions until I hear what y’all have to say.

So, I pose the question to you (with the hopes that we’ll get some really good responses of all kinds!)

Share with me: Is it okay for Christian parents to encourage their kids to believe in Santa? What do you think about Santa and why do you DO or NOT DO Santa in your home?

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