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Is Facebook Really Worth It?


I’m on Facebook, and I’m guessing you are, too. Who in the world isn’t?

In fact, I have a personal page and an author page, so I guess that makes me doubly on Facebook. (Let me plug my author page now– feel free to “like” me so we can connect on a more frequent basis!)

There are two schools of thought on Facebook: the “I hate Facebook” crowd who usually only post political rants, and the “I love Facebook and document my entire life on it” group. Oh wait– and a third group. The regular Joes like me. 🙂 (And the fourth group– those not on Facebook. I think there are seven of you in the world.)

Facebook pros:

1. I’ve reconnected with people all over the world whom I haven’t seen in ages or who live too far away for me to chat with regularly, and it allows me to keep up with them and their families.

2. I enjoy some of the funny stuff and blogs that people post.

3. I like being able to post photos of my family for extended family members and interested friends to see.

4. Occasionally I see a post on Facebook that allows me to save money or take advantage of a special offer.

5. I love being able to connect with my favorite authors via Facebook.

6. I like to be able to get out important news quickly to all of my friends.

7. As a follower of Christ, I can use Facebook to encourage others.

Facebook cons:

1. It is a time vacuum. I jump on just to check and end up wasting precious moments. Perhaps that’s why I’m always behind on folding laundry.

2. I don’t enjoy reading about people’s sinuses. Why do people always feel the need to post about their sinuses?

3. I don’t like reading spoilers to my favorite TV shows in other people’s statuses. It’s not their fault that I haven’t watched that episode yet, but I don’t want to know who dies before I get a chance to see for myself.

4. I don’t like statuses that contain “ugh.” Pessimistic people begin or end each status with “ugh”. These people clearly do not eat enough chocolate.

5. I don’t love that people feel the need to post photos of everything they eat and every move they make. That’s what blogs are for. 😉

6. Facebook is great at pointing out insecure people who are fishing for compliments or those who are incredibly selfish. I actually saw a post in my feed that was complaining about going to someone’s funeral as, “the last thing I want to do today.” Yeah, I bet that person’s family doesn’t want to be attending a funeral for their loved one, either. Thoughtless much?

Is Facebook worth the time we spend on it? Are we actually developing lasting relationships with those we claim as “friends”?

I think that in many cases the answer is yes. Facebook has allowed me to connect with people in my life in a way that wasn’t possible years ago. I consider it a blessing when I can be involved on a regular basis with people I love and care about.

But what about the other “friends”?

I have a rule of thumb when allowing friends on my personal Facebook page and it is this– if I saw you, say, in the grocery store and wouldn’t recognize you or have a conversation with you, we probably shouldn’t be Facebook friends.

If you post in your status that you might cut me as your friend as you “clean house”, well, just know that’s okay with me. I’d love to connect with you, but it’s your choice.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking about your life in terms of, “this is going to make a great status update!”?

I have. When my kids say something cute or something insanely funny happens, one of my first thoughts is, “I gotta post that!” How odd and silly! How much our lives have changed in the past decade! Proof that we might be too involved in social media.

Here’s my general take on Facebook–

Even if I only spend a few minutes on it, they shouldn’t be minutes that I could use on something more important, like time with my family. If I can’t post something either newsworthy, uplifting, funny, or encouraging, I try to refrain from posting at all. I don’t comment on statuses that upset me. What’s the point? And if this form of communicative technology allows me to be involved, even in a small way, with friends and family spread out all over the globe, then I consider it a blessing.

Share with me: What are your thoughts about Facebook? Waste of time or fun way to connect?

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Are You Practicing Safe Social Media?

**This post is geared at writers, but it’s for anyone and everyone who explores and uses social media.

Okay, writers, we’ve read/heard/seen a lot of information about building our fan base via the internet and the wonderful social media sites that regularly eat up hours of our day.

(Really, what did we do before Facebook?)

Social media is important.

We have to connect. We have to interact. We build a base not only to sell books, but to be a light in a dark world.

Yet it’s that darkness in the world that presents a problem.

Some people are weird. As much as we want to love and trust everyone, it’s a sad state of affairs that we can’t. YOU CAN’T.

Because of that, it is so so so important that as we connect with our readers/fan base/followers, we make a conscious effort to protect ourselves.

Some of this might seem like common sense, but as I troll the internet, I’m often surprised by what I see/read. Shocked, really.

I’m all about opening up, being real, and letting my readers and followers get to know me, but there is a line that not only separates vital info from TMI, but also protection from public knowledge.

Tips for Staying Safe While Building a Fan Base:

1. Choose your friends wisely.

I do believe you should be open, real and respond to anyone who reaches out to you by commenting on your blog, etc., but be careful about letting strangers in on private info. A major way to do this is to keep your professional social media interaction and personal interaction separate. Facebook, for example–an author page allows you to control what information your followers see, without giving them access to photos of your kids, other family members, etc., or any private statuses you don’t want people you don’t know seeing.

If you don’t know ’em, don’t accept a friend request on your personal page.

**In an effort to have a better professional connection with my readers and followers, I launched my official Facebook page this week. You can connect and chat with me there by clicking on the link to the right of this post.

2. Protect your kids.

Now some of you may think I’m extreme about this, but I do not purposely post pictures of my kids or use their names on my blog (go ahead, check around) or on Twitter. I have lots and lots of followers whom I love and appreciate, but I love my kids more. (Sorry, lovely followers.) So I’ll tell you about my kiddos, but until they are older, I’m probably not going to let you see them. It’s not you I don’t trust– it’s the one crazy weirdo who might see a pic of my kids and get all…weird. I’m a Momma-bear that way. I wish more parents thought about those kinds of things before posting tons of pics and information about their kids online. The choice is yours–right now I choose to protect my kids this way. I might change my mind down the road, but for now, I’m going to put them in a virtual bubble if I can.

3. Do not, for any reason, list your home address on any of your profiles.

This includes Twitter, Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, your blog or anything else. It’s already too easy for some creep to find you as it is.

It seems like common sense, but we want to trust. We want to say, “Yes! Reach out and touch me!” But you really don’t want everyone reaching out to touch you. You don’t.

4. Same goes for your phone number. Do no list it online.

I am always SMH (shaking my head, yeah I’ve been wanting to use that little acronym for a while) when I see that my friends on Facebook have their phone numbers listed. Some think, Well if you’re friends with me on FB, it’s okay if you have my number. Do not overestimate the privacy and firewalls and such of FB. Anything can be hacked these days.

If you put your number out there, realize it’s out there to the world.

5. Be careful about your contact info.

If you feel it necessary to list an address and phone number for readers to contact you, get a PO box or a throw-away cell phone that cannot be traced to your location. Some people also choose to have separate email addresses–one for personal emails and one for professional.

6. Don’t “check in”.

Do you really want people knowing where you are all the time, especially when you aren’t home? Again, I’m SMH when I see “so-and-so is at _____ with John Smith.” Now everyone knows where you are and with whom, and most of all, that you aren’t home. It’s like advertising that you’re going on vacation. It’s a BAD idea. Don’t overestimate your protection when you think only your “friends” are seeing it. Mostly because some of these people who are “friends” really aren’t.

7. Be careful what you Tweet.

Again, use some common sense. Be careful about using family members’ names, locations, and your plans for being out of town. It’s just not a good idea–especially because anyone can access your account and follow you on Twitter.

8. Make sure your privacy settings are correct.

Be certain to check the privacy settings on each and every social media site that you are a part of. Make sure people are seeing only what you want them to see. I highly suggest that you make your personal Facebook page private (so that NON-friends can’t see all of it), especially if it contains information about people you love that you don’t want everyone in the world having access to. Same goes for any other site which contains information you want to protect.

When updating statuses, make sure you have them set based on who you want to see them. On Facebook, for example, you can set each and every status either to public, friends, friends of friends, or a custom list of people. Be aware of this and make good use of it.

9. A dash of common sense goes a long way.

Use caution when interacting via social media. You don’t have to be suspicious or scared of everyone, but you shouldn’t blanket trust, either. It’s a sad state that we have to be cautious, but that’s the world we live in. When in doubt, DON’T post it. Be aware. Be careful.

We shine in the dark, and we shine brightest when we are wise. Color me cautious, but I’d much rather be safe than sorry.

For more fantastic information on how to stay safe online, check out this post from Kristen Lamb. Really, really good info for anyone who uses any kind of social media/email, etc.

Share with me: What other ways can you suggest of people being cautious with Social Media?


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