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Reconsider Your Level of Influence

Those of us who use social media sites because of our professional life can get a tad…focused…on numbers.

Number of page hits. Number of followers. Number of friend requests. Number of comments or contest entrants or subscribers.

Numbers mean a lot when you are trying to “brand” and build a base.

While I realize that many of you have been on Twitter forever and have far surpassed my measly following, I was excited when I hit 500 followers on Twitter.

To my husband I said, “Guess what? I hit 500 on Twitter! Awesome, huh?”

“Yeah,” he replied. “That’s more people than will be in the service at church tomorrow.”

It was one of those moments–you know the kind–when words become physical and hit you in the face.

“That’s a lot of influence you have.”


How real is the accountability that comes with being a follower of Christ and having an influence, no matter how significant or insignificant we believe it to be.

What we say, what we Tweet– we have a choice. Will it be uplifting? Will it be positive? Will it be encouraging? Will it be a light of truth in a world of darkness?

No matter how many “followers” or “friends” or “subscribers” or co-workers, or friends, or classmates, or family members you have, you have influence.

Are you using your influence in a way that is enlightening, bringing joy to others?

Most of all, are you using your influence to point people to Him?

Share with me: In what ways do purposefully attempt to use social media in positive ways? In your everyday life, do you have something you do to try to be purposefully influential for Him?


Filed under The Christian Walk

Are You Practicing Safe Social Media?

**This post is geared at writers, but it’s for anyone and everyone who explores and uses social media.

Okay, writers, we’ve read/heard/seen a lot of information about building our fan base via the internet and the wonderful social media sites that regularly eat up hours of our day.

(Really, what did we do before Facebook?)

Social media is important.

We have to connect. We have to interact. We build a base not only to sell books, but to be a light in a dark world.

Yet it’s that darkness in the world that presents a problem.

Some people are weird. As much as we want to love and trust everyone, it’s a sad state of affairs that we can’t. YOU CAN’T.

Because of that, it is so so so important that as we connect with our readers/fan base/followers, we make a conscious effort to protect ourselves.

Some of this might seem like common sense, but as I troll the internet, I’m often surprised by what I see/read. Shocked, really.

I’m all about opening up, being real, and letting my readers and followers get to know me, but there is a line that not only separates vital info from TMI, but also protection from public knowledge.

Tips for Staying Safe While Building a Fan Base:

1. Choose your friends wisely.

I do believe you should be open, real and respond to anyone who reaches out to you by commenting on your blog, etc., but be careful about letting strangers in on private info. A major way to do this is to keep your professional social media interaction and personal interaction separate. Facebook, for example–an author page allows you to control what information your followers see, without giving them access to photos of your kids, other family members, etc., or any private statuses you don’t want people you don’t know seeing.

If you don’t know ’em, don’t accept a friend request on your personal page.

**In an effort to have a better professional connection with my readers and followers, I launched my official Facebook page this week. You can connect and chat with me there by clicking on the link to the right of this post.

2. Protect your kids.

Now some of you may think I’m extreme about this, but I do not purposely post pictures of my kids or use their names on my blog (go ahead, check around) or on Twitter. I have lots and lots of followers whom I love and appreciate, but I love my kids more. (Sorry, lovely followers.) So I’ll tell you about my kiddos, but until they are older, I’m probably not going to let you see them. It’s not you I don’t trust– it’s the one crazy weirdo who might see a pic of my kids and get all…weird. I’m a Momma-bear that way. I wish more parents thought about those kinds of things before posting tons of pics and information about their kids online. The choice is yours–right now I choose to protect my kids this way. I might change my mind down the road, but for now, I’m going to put them in a virtual bubble if I can.

3. Do not, for any reason, list your home address on any of your profiles.

This includes Twitter, Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, your blog or anything else. It’s already too easy for some creep to find you as it is.

It seems like common sense, but we want to trust. We want to say, “Yes! Reach out and touch me!” But you really don’t want everyone reaching out to touch you. You don’t.

4. Same goes for your phone number. Do no list it online.

I am always SMH (shaking my head, yeah I’ve been wanting to use that little acronym for a while) when I see that my friends on Facebook have their phone numbers listed. Some think, Well if you’re friends with me on FB, it’s okay if you have my number. Do not overestimate the privacy and firewalls and such of FB. Anything can be hacked these days.

If you put your number out there, realize it’s out there to the world.

5. Be careful about your contact info.

If you feel it necessary to list an address and phone number for readers to contact you, get a PO box or a throw-away cell phone that cannot be traced to your location. Some people also choose to have separate email addresses–one for personal emails and one for professional.

6. Don’t “check in”.

Do you really want people knowing where you are all the time, especially when you aren’t home? Again, I’m SMH when I see “so-and-so is at _____ with John Smith.” Now everyone knows where you are and with whom, and most of all, that you aren’t home. It’s like advertising that you’re going on vacation. It’s a BAD idea. Don’t overestimate your protection when you think only your “friends” are seeing it. Mostly because some of these people who are “friends” really aren’t.

7. Be careful what you Tweet.

Again, use some common sense. Be careful about using family members’ names, locations, and your plans for being out of town. It’s just not a good idea–especially because anyone can access your account and follow you on Twitter.

8. Make sure your privacy settings are correct.

Be certain to check the privacy settings on each and every social media site that you are a part of. Make sure people are seeing only what you want them to see. I highly suggest that you make your personal Facebook page private (so that NON-friends can’t see all of it), especially if it contains information about people you love that you don’t want everyone in the world having access to. Same goes for any other site which contains information you want to protect.

When updating statuses, make sure you have them set based on who you want to see them. On Facebook, for example, you can set each and every status either to public, friends, friends of friends, or a custom list of people. Be aware of this and make good use of it.

9. A dash of common sense goes a long way.

Use caution when interacting via social media. You don’t have to be suspicious or scared of everyone, but you shouldn’t blanket trust, either. It’s a sad state that we have to be cautious, but that’s the world we live in. When in doubt, DON’T post it. Be aware. Be careful.

We shine in the dark, and we shine brightest when we are wise. Color me cautious, but I’d much rather be safe than sorry.

For more fantastic information on how to stay safe online, check out this post from Kristen Lamb. Really, really good info for anyone who uses any kind of social media/email, etc.

Share with me: What other ways can you suggest of people being cautious with Social Media?


Filed under Parenting, Writing

Putting Priority Into Practice


You can rank your priorities until you’re blue in the face, but until you act on them, it’s just a wish list.

How many posts have you read about writers and the use of social media?

Zillions, I bet. Branding, marketing, building a reader base, connecting with the reader, dividing your time between writing and social media.

This is not one of those posts.

This is just a simple reminder to myself that sometimes social media is (and should be) dead last on my list.

For the past several weeks, my writing time has been eaten up by social media. It’s my own fault, really, because when I sit down at the computer to write, instead I find myself on GoogleReader checking out all the blogs I love, or eating up Twitter, or wasting precious minutes on Facebook. I have to become better at this. It would help if all you bloggers would stop writing things that are so wonderful. Seriously. Stop it.

I love blogging. In fact, I had a great post planned for today. But life got in the way, and truth be told, I’m tired. So tired that that post is going to have to wait.

God, family, career.

That’s how it falls in my universe.

And within “career” the process of writing MUST come before social media. So while I enjoy Twitter, Facebook, and blogging, I’m here to tell you that my involvement in each of those social media realms may be a little sporadic for a while, as I absolutely must devote my “writing” time to actual writing. (Shocking, right?)

Priorities. I have to stop talking about what they should be and make them what they are.

As I began typing this post, my oldest son got out of bed and came to find me. He’s supposed to be asleep.

“Mama, can you sing me some songs?”

This is something I do for him on a pretty regular basis. I’ve been singing to him at bedtime since he was born.

But tonight, because I’m tired, my hubby was on his way home and I needed to get him dinner, and I still have dishes to do and laundry to fold, I responded with, “Not tonight, baby. I’m super busy.”

He went back to bed and I settled back at the computer to write and heard my own voice in my head say, “Seriously? Aren’t you about to write a post about priorities?”

And I went and sang my son some songs.

Share with me: What priorities have you been talking about but not acting on?


Filed under Writing