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7 Things To Do Before Seeing 50 Shades of Grey

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Although it seems that I’ve been posting about movies a lot lately (okay, this is only my second post about movies this month, but still…that’s more posts than I usually devote to movies), I promise, this is not turning into an entertainment blog.

I guess it’s just that the movies that have come out lately have snagged my attention, and for one reason or another, compelled words.

And today’s topic? 50 Shades of Grey. Of course. Isn’t this the only thing people are talking about right now?

The movie is about to hit theaters and, if anything like the book(s), will be wildly popular.

That makes me sad.

Let me be totally transparent with you from the get-go. I haven’t read the books, nor do I plan to. I will not see the movie.

I could devote this entire post to the reasons why I’ve chosen not to read the books or see the movie. I could tell you all about the Biblical reasons and how I believe that sex belongs only in marriage, but there are a zillion posts out there that have pretty much said what I would say, like this one, written by a pastor and literary agency mate of mine. Read it. It’s full of truth and grace.

You’re going to make your own choices about these books and movies regardless of what I have to say, but I hope you’ll briefly consider a few things—things I think you should do before you go see this movie.

  1. Consider whether or not your movie ticket dollars could be better spent.

Instead of paying for a ticket to this movie, perhaps you could put the money toward bills that need to be paid. Maybe it could go toward groceries or clothes or something else in your life. Perhaps you could be a blessing to a stranger today and use those dollars to “pay it forward” while you’re out and about—purchase the order for the person behind you in the drive-thru, etc. Maybe you could give the money to charity for a cause worth fighting. Check out WorldHelp’s child sponsorship program. Do something with the dollars that will either make a positive difference in your life or the life of someone else.

  1. Talk to your spouse or significant other.

The vast majority of ticket holders for this movie will be women, so ladies, I’d like to challenge you to have a real conversation with your husband or boyfriend about this movie—about how they feel about you seeing it. Does your husband support you? Is he aware that this movie promotes graphic sexual situations based on pain as gratification? Have you discussed with him the reasons why you enjoyed the books (I’m assuming you did if you want to see the movie) and why you want to see the movie? I want you to consider how you might feel if your husband went out to see a graphic sexual film because he was “turned on” by the premise or by one of the characters. I think you should discuss this with your man and give him the opportunity to share with you any feelings he may (or may not) have on the subject. Open conversation about difficult topics is a positive attribute of a strong relationship (something I think the characters in the 50 Shades story-line sorely lack). PS, check out one of my favorite relationship bloggers for more.

  1. Consider how seeing the movie (or reading the books) will have a positive impact on your life.

Will seeing this movie, in anyway, make you funnier, more intelligent, more compassionate, more aware of others, kinder, more devoted to helping people, or set your mind, in any way, on positive things that will help you grow spiritually?

I think we can ask ourselves the question above about a lot of forms of entertainment to help us weed out things that fill our brains with garbage, taking up the room we could be devoting to things that help us grow as humans; things that connect us to other people, not in a way that makes people appear as sexual beings, but as human beings with brains, hearts, and souls that are valuable to humanity and precious to God.

  1. Question your definition of love.love

It’s nearly Valentine’s Day—the day when all the world gets mushy and gushy about love. And yet, while we’re all thinking about hearts and cupid and giant teddy bears and boxes of chocolates, too many people are walking around saying that the relationship portrayed in 50 Shades of Grey is a love story. I disagree wholeheartedly.

Love is not someone who spends lots of money on you.

Love is not jumping into bed with a person you hardly know.

Love is not sexual gratification from pleasure in pain.

Love is not one person’s needs being met at the expense of another’s.

Love is not sex slave and dominant.

Love is not sex.

Love is not what this movie is about. At all.

Love is commitment. Love is devotion. Love is a man who makes a woman feel like a princess and a woman who makes a man feel like a hero. Love has nothing to do with money. Love is beautiful and kind and patient and not prideful. Love is sacrifice. Love is what a strong marriage is built on, and most strong marriages have very healthy and not-at-all boring sex lives.

Before you see this movie—question whether or not you’re justifying by calling this a love story.

  1. Invite your grandma.

I’m not even going to tell you to consider what Jesus would think if he was with you in this movie because folks, he IS with you in the movie. God is everywhere and He sees all things. That being said, I want to just encourage you to invite your grandmother to go with you to see 50 Shades. Would you feel comfortable sitting by grandma during “those scenes?” If not, question why you’re comfortable going at all.

  1. Read about how the actors feel about the movie.

This article was interesting. It appears that the actors from this movie don’t even like each other and also disliked pretty much everything about the movie. The actor playing Christian Grey mentions that he had to take a long shower after filming before he could touch his wife and young child, presumably because he felt dirty from filming. Gotta wonder why that sort of filth would appeal to anyone. (However, if they truly hated it all that much, I have to question why they’d sign on for it at all.)

  1. Consider some alternatives.

There are tons of movies that you could watch that are far more romantic than 50 Shades of Grey will ever be, because unlike 50 Shades, they are actually romantic, not just about sex.

A few suggestions: Becoming Jane (one of my favorites), Austenland (hilarious!), A Walk to Remember, The Princess Bride, Say Anything (my husband’s suggestion), Emma, Pride & Prejudice, Sense and Sensibility (yeah, I love Jane Austen), P.S. I Love You, The Vow, Seven Brides for Seven Brothers (a classic fave), The Notebook, Dirty Dancing, etc…there’s a VERY long list of alternatives.

I’m not asking you to agree with me that 50 Shades of Grey is not a good movie for anyone to see and could actually do harm to your relationships and your outlook on love, marriage, and healthy sex.

I’m just asking you to do the things above and see if you might decide that you have better things to do with your valuable time and money.

Share with me: What’s your favorite romantic movie?

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Obsessive Romance: The Kind You Root For

It’s rare that we get snow days in GA. Rare and wonderful.

The boys have been home from school, Superhubby has been home from work, and we’ve all been pretty lazy. Except for all the snowball fights, that is.

These surprise down days have given me time to do something I’ve been wanting to do for a while– time that has started a trend. My husband calls it an obsession.

Let me explain.

Years ago BC (before children), Superhubs and I used to watch a lot of TV together. One of the shows we watched together was Veronica Mars. We were both big fans.


Veronica Mars– the story of a teenaged wanna-be private eye who spends her days in normal high school drama and her nights solving crimes, like the murder of her best friend.

So when I found out that a Veronica Mars movie was on its way to theaters (releasing March 14, 2014), I was PUMPED.

But TV being pretty much a luxury for me now, I realized there was a lot I’d forgotten about the show. So, I’m re-watching. And these snow days were perfect for indulging myself.

And perhaps Superhubs is right– I’m obsessed. Again. Just like I was when I watched this show years ago.

What’s got me obsessed?

Is it the great writing, interesting stories and compelling characters?


Is it Veronica Mars herself (played by the adorable Kristen Bell) and her snarky mouth, wit like a rapier and “no fear” skills as a high school private investigator?

Partly. (PS- I want to be her when I grow up.)

But mostly it’s Logan Echolls (played by Jason Dorhing) and his bad-boy, “I need serious psychiatric help but I’m loveable because I’m broken” devotion to Veronica.


The passion between these two characters is grrrrreat! (Insert Tony the Tiger…)

Hate-hate-hate-HATE-hate-hate-toleration-toleration-what’s-happening-with-these-two-whoa-what-the-heck-they’re-kissing-I-want-them-to-be-together-forever kinda passion.


It’s the classic story of two characters who hate each other’s guts but are drawn together by circumstances only to find that they have more in common than they thought and can really bring out the best in each other.

Here’s the thing– **Spoiler alert!** There’s no happy ending here. (Okay, sorry if I spoiled that for you).

The show was canceled after three glorious seasons. Re-watching is just reawakening the feelings of injustice that I never got the rest of Veronica and Logan’s story.

Hence the reason why I am PUMPED about the movie.

It picks up 9 years later, after the last thing we see in the show. Veronica has grown up; moved on. She’s got a new dude in her life (well, not new, but…just watch the show.) But something brings her back to her hometown…and to Logan Echolls.

And even in the preview for the movie,  when we see Veronica and Logan together on screen for the “first” time in 9 years… well, I might have done a fan-girl squeal. Might have. Probably did. You’ll never really know.


So I’m obsessively re-watching this show and indulging in the on-again-off-again-on-again-will-they-just-make-it-official-already relationship between Veronica and Logan.

As I’ve said, I’m a hopeless romantic and these two have got that magic romance thing going on, people.

Not everyone loves Logan and Veronica together, though. If you’re a fan of the show or if you decide to watch it, you’ll have to let me know– are you #TeamLogan or #Team…someone else?

If you haven’t seen the show, you’re missing out.

You still have time to watch before the movie comes out. Amazon Prime has all 3 seasons available for free right now.

Share with me: What good movie or TV romance has gotten your attention lately? What’s your favorite TV romance?

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When A Bomb Feels Like a Blockbuster– Movies We Hate to Love

A friend of mine recently posted a question on Facebook, asking his friends which critically acclaimed film or blockbuster movie they just didn’t enjoy like the rest of the world.

Lots of answers were given. O, Brother Where Art Thou. The Hangover. Star Wars (my answer). Lots of arguments were started.

That same week I happened to catch a movie on TV that I do enjoy–one I’ve seen a few times before and had no trouble watching again.

It’s funny.

It’s cute.

The romance, I think, is great.

The scenery is breathtaking (what isn’t shot against a green-screen, that is.)

It’s got good looking people in it.

It’s a movie I really, really like.

It was a box office bomb and to the critics, a mess.

When I say the movie bombed, I mean it.

The movie is Leap Year.

You know, the one that came out a couple of years back starring Amy Adams and Matthew Goode?

Yeah, I love it.

It’s not my favorite movie or anything, but it’s a cute, happy movie that leaves me feeling good when it’s over.

Maybe it’s because it took place in Ireland and you know, good looking guy, Irish accent…yeah, that’s a recipe for success, one would think.

Maybe I like it because it’s got some really funny bits.

Maybe it’s because no matter what she does, Amy Adams comes off as adorable.

Maybe it’s because the back-and-forth romantic tension is great.

Maybe it’s because when Declan utters the line, “Mrs. O’Brady-Callahan, where are ya goin’?” it’s one of those melty-swoony moments.

Regardless of how the formula adds up, critics hated it, the majority of audiences hated it, heck, even Matthew Goode hated it and stated that he only did the movie because he was contractually obligated.

Whatever. I love it.

Some others that were box office bombs but I love them:

Center Stage— Dance movie starring Peter Gallagher and Amanda Schull. There’s a sequel that’s pretty good, too.

I Spy– Starring Owen Wilson and Eddie Murphy.

I have no idea why, but this movie makes me laugh hysterically. I distinctly remember just about falling out of my chair when I saw it in the theater. Don’t judge me.

This is subjectivity in the arts at its finest, folks.

Share with me: Is there a box office or critical bomb that you love, even though the rest of the world hated it?


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