Hard to Find Happy Endings

Kim Kardashian is getting divorced after 72 days of marriage.

I know, I know. Let me give you a moment to weep. (Sarcasm…)

Who didn’t see this coming? I mean, really?

I won’t get off on a tangent about the Kardashians and how I think they contribute to the degradation of society, and that those who watch/emulate/admire said persons and those like them are complete and utter morons. No, I won’t go there.

Instead, I’ll point out that once again, the sanctity of marriage has been spat upon.

Happily ever after is subject to “happily until I’m not happy anymore.” Vows mean nothing. Vows are a joke.

And let’s just be honest–irreconcilable differences is a phrase used for those who don’t want to be honest about why they’re really getting divorced.

So, some questions for you.

Share with me: 

1. Should it be more difficult to get married? Meaning, should we impose requirements, like pre-marital counseling for all couples? Should getting a marriage license be more difficult?
2. Should divorce laws be stricter? If so, how can we make them stricter?
3. Should “irreconcilable differences” be removed from reasons for divorce?

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12 responses to “Hard to Find Happy Endings

  1. I'm alwats pro prevention, so I think more should be required to get married; req counsel is a good choice, longer waiting oeriod to get license. But it's one of those things like having a kid, theres ni restrictions on getting oregnant but a million to adopt; how to even tackle? Kardashian's have contributed to lack of respect for marriage.

  2. Sorry for typos, my phone was being weird!

  3. Good questions. I don't know that more should be required for marriage. Right now a bunch of people live together because it's actually cheaper than getting married. I think to get married is hard enough with expenses.Maybe the answer is making divorce more difficult. People need to know that when they get married it's a commitment they won't easily be able to get out of. Just my opinion.

  4. I think we all want the happily ever after, even Kim but unless God is our ultimate HEA, 78 days is about all it'll last. Marriage is a four letter word. WORK. Breaks my heart really. 78 days. I strongly suggest everyone goes through pre-marital counseling before marriage, but if God ain't in it, chances are it won't last and we can't force everyone to know Jesus. Ok so that was my soap box today!

  5. My husband and I made a choice to love each other forever. We chose to pick the other over self every day for the rest of our lives. We made a decision to enter a covenant (all of me for all of you) and live every day as man and wife. The word divorce is not in our vocabulary as the decision we made has no take backs. I did not enter a marriage as an elaborate going steady ritual with an escape hatch at any moment either of us want to call it quits. I do not understand a disposable marriage and am glad that I am not in one!

  6. in Louisiana where i was married, we had the option of covenant marriage, which essentially makes it harder to get divorced. you have to agree to marital counseling and only separation. you also had to do pre-marital counseling prior. pretty cool thing. i had a client who got married to girlfriend and literally slept on the floor during the honeymoon due to fighting. they are trying to get an annulment now…*sigh*

  7. Ugh, Isn't it sickening? I like what Jeannie said about Louisiana…very cool. I'm not sure that stricter laws on marriage will do much when most couples live together anyway. I think a deeper spiritual awakening might be needed to get to the root cause, y'know?

  8. Divorced girl, chiming in here! First off, anyone that thinks it's "easy" to get divorced needs a bit of a reality check. It is a painful decision, to begin with. And then you have to go through the legalities of it all. Because we moved to Canada, we fall under Canadian law… meaning we had to live separated for a year before I could file for anything. For me, that meant living in a different bedroom in the same house for 13 months before a separation agreement was signed. Knowing my marriage was over. With a 4 year-old daughter that asked a lot of questions. It's been three years and, while we're officially separated, we're still not divorced. It is not easy. And, it is not for the faint of heart. I was raised in the church, I'm a God-fearing gal, we waited until we got married, we had pre-marital counseling by a minister and by a psychologist… but getting married at 21 to a boy I met at 18, with all of the growing and learning that comes after, was not a good thing. Trust me. It hurt. And it was hard. But I am so much better for it. And so is my sweet little girl.

  9. Love love love all the opinions!Jess–I have to agree with you–If God ain't in it, there's not much to be done, laws or not, is there?Covenant marriage sounds cool.Aleesha- thanks for sharing your story. I know that no matter what, there are some couples that are going to get divorced.I'd love to see "throw away marriages" go away, though. It's pathetic.

  10. While I absolutely agree that the growing trend of get-in, get-out marriages is disturbing, I can't get behind any kind of legislation to make any part of it more difficult. You can't legislate morality, common sense, maturity, or good decision making skills. If people want to be together, they will be, and if they want to be apart, they will be. People have to make their own life decisions, and they have to live with them. And where does it stop? Would you then have to further seek permission to have or not have a child within a certain time frame, or only a certain number of kids? Buy or not buy a home as a married couple? Because those things aren't already hard enough to do. I just can't advocate for anymore government regulations regarding our personal lives.

  11. Lisa– you might not believe it based on the way I wrote this post, but I agree with you 100%. It's a much bigger issue than legislation, and that's what I was hoping many would point out. We're talking morality here–and a definitive lack of Christ-centered marriages. Something has to be done on an entirely different level. HOWEVER, I do think that "irreconcilable differences" is the biggest crock in the world. That should not be a reason for a dissolution of marriage.

  12. Part of me once thought it should be tougher to marry and/or divorce, but I've come to realize that hearts must change more than laws.Someone once said "to those who believe, no proof is necessary; to those who doubt, no proof is adequate", or words to that effect. Jesus told the Pharisees who, when debating the circumstances under which a marriage could be dissolved, that God had only given a bill of divorcement because of the hardness of their hearts.More laws won't correct hard hearts.To the practical nature of the issue, the state shouldn't even be involved in marriages – it's a church issue. If we reverted to that, and supported & encouraged one another to "not enter into marriage lightly", and then keep our vows once we did, perhaps divorce would decline.(Remind me to tell you how we unwittingly commit polygamy via state licensed marriages…!)

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