Your Story, Their Opinions: Tuning Out Subjective White Noise

I’m at the point in my current story where I’m almost ready to turn it over to let some folks read it. Some folks who aren’t me.

And I’m shaking in my boots. (Rain boots, as it were, since I’m pretty sure The Ark is going to float by my window any moment…)

I always get really nervous at this point in crafting a novel. Why? Because I know the opinions are about to come flying at me at 900 miles an hour. But I’ve learned a thing or two over the past few years, so no matter what, I’m ready.
 
The art of crafting a story is definitely just that–art. And art is subjective.

20 people read the same book: 5 will think it’s the best book they’ve ever read, 5 will think it was “okaaaaay, but…”, 5 will say they didn’t even finish, and the last 5 will rip it to shreds and find every single reason to hate it–just because.

Subjectivity at its finest.

Subjectivity is the combination of someone’s opinion with their circumstances (are they in a good mood or did their cat just die?). It’s their own preference combined with their life experience.

No two people are ever going to look at art the same way–whether it’s a book, a painting, a song, or one of those weird statues made of garbage. Some will love, some will hate. That’s just the way it goes.

So when you turn your manuscript over to inquiring eyes you’ve asked to read it, consider the following: you will get what you’re asking for.

So what do you do when you have opinions flying at you from all different directions? How do you weed out the opinions that might help and kill the opinions that might hurt? How do you stop the white noise from destroying your story?

Tuning Out the Subjective White Noise

1. It all starts with the eyes–and the eyes you choose matter. When you are an unpublished writer who doesn’t have an editor on speed-dial and your story is in the pre-published stage, it’s very important to get feedback on it. You need to know what you’re doing right and where you need some work. So the most important thing you can do is choose valued readers who can help. Valued readers are the ones who have knowledge you need: Critique partners, writer-friends, people who are familiar with your genre of writing, your agent, paid critiques, etc.

Notice who I didn’t put on that list? Mom. Not that I don’t think Mom should read it–she should. But her opinion is less valuable to you because, let’s face it, she’s going to tell you it’s wonderful no matter what. And her opinion, while good for your spirit, should be considered part of the “white noise.” Also in the white noise category? Your best friend. Your buddy at the gym. Your spouse. The chic in the Mommy&Me group who doesn’t really read but promised that she’d read yours. The point is, when picking readers, be picky. Choose people who have opinions that will add value to your story. And remember that your story is in the early stages so keep the number of readers at a reasonable level–do you really want the whole world reading it before it’s been tweaked and polished to perfection?

2. Prepare yourself. A story is like a child to an author. You’ve named it. You’ve nurtured it. You’ve loved it through good times and bad. So when someone offers an opinion (good or bad), it’s very easy to take it personally. Before your turn your story over to be read, prepare your heart. Pray about your receptiveness to what is being said. If you’ve chosen quality readers, the opinions you get will hold more weight, so you need to be ready to hear them with an open mind and an open heart.

3. Swallow your pride. Although your story is like a baby and you think it’s perfect–it’s not. There will always be opinions that will say you should change or work on certain things about your story. Subjective, yes, but be willing to make changes if they need to be made. There’s no point in soliciting opinions if you aren’t willing to make changes.

4. You are the author of your story–why is this an easy thing to forget? There are some who love nothing more than to put their own touches on your work. At this stage of your writing game, that’s not their job. They may make suggestions about things you should change, but be confident enough in your story and its lesson/point/essence and your own writing ability to know what to change and what to keep. If you aren’t careful, you can let someone else makeover your story until it’s not yours anymore.

5. In order to be strong with #4 above, you have to know the essence of your story. You have to be connected with your own message and voice. In his book, Techniques of the Selling Writer, Dwight V. Swain talks about the importance of understanding the “feeling” of your story. The feeling is yours. The feeling is what drives your characters and your plot. And the feeling is what shapes the writing rules you use. If you are in tune with that feeling, you’ll know what suggestions will work for your story and what won’t.

6. Be strong enough to say no. Just because someone suggests changes to your story doesn’t mean you have to make them. However, keep in mind that if you’ve chosen the right readers, suggestions they make should be worth looking at because hopefully they will only improve your work. Learn to balance suggestions and your story’s feeling.

7. No one has power over your story but you. You are the only one who can make the changes you need to make and you are the only one who understands the feeling of your story. Therefore, you are the only one who can decide what works for your story and what doesn’t. Anything that doesn’t work for your story is white noise. Any opinion that removes the essence of what you are trying to convey is white noise. Any person who tries to make your story into theirs–white noise.  Anyone who takes away your unique voice–white noise. Value those opinions that begin by valuing what you are doing with your work.

We’ve all gotten good & bad feedback on our writing. It’s what we do with that feedback–how we react to it and what we change within our writing that crafts our stories and molds us as an author.

Get ready. It’s coming. But you and your story can both make it through.


Share with me: What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received in a critique? What’s the worst?

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Friday Favorites– Natural Supplements You Should Know About

If you are anything like me, then you fall into one (or all) of the following categories:

Have a full time job
Have more than one full time job
Never get enough sleep
Are at the beck and call of multiple people 24/7
Are still perfecting the art of multitasking
Put “relax” on your to-do list
Hear the voices of fictional characters in your brain all day long

Okay–maybe not that last one. Maybe that one is just me. Anywho…. 

I’ve stumbled upon a little problem as a writer: ENERGY.

I find that I have trouble keeping myself focused during my key writing time, afternoon, when my kids are doing quiet time or taking naps. All I want to do is take a nap, too.

And at night, when I should be relaxing and catching up on much needed sleep, my brain runs at 9000 miles an hour, a lot of the time spent obsessing over my stories. (Any other writers out there often tormented by your characters at the most inopportune times?) I can’t relax. I can’t turn my brain off to sleep.

My mom recently introduced me to some products that are absolute life savers. And the best part? They are ALL NATURAL.

They are so great, in fact, that I just had to share them with you.

For energy, I introduce to you Reserveage CocoaWell True Energy with AdaptoStress 3.

I think these supplements are ah-mazing. And remember–they’re all natural. The active ingredients are cocoa powder and green tea.

When I take them, I don’t feel buzzed and I’m not bouncing off the walls all hyped-up or anything, but I am focused and I truly do have more energy. I’m not sure that they eleminate any stress in my life, but they sure help me feel alive enough to face it head-on. I don’t take these everyday, but I do take them when I’m drained or when I know I have a long day ahead.

*Find it at your local health food store, vitamin shop, or on Amazon.

And when my brain won’t turn off, I help it out with The Vitamin Shoppe brand Advanced Sleep Formula.

This is also an all-natural product. Its main ingredient is tryptophan (the same stuff found in turkey.) It does not make me “sleepy”, but it does help me relax and fall asleep–and stay asleep.

I don’t react well to sleep medications–it usually takes me a whole day to get over the groggy feeling that I get from Nyquil or the like, but with this stuff I don’t have that problem. There’s no groggy after-effect the next day. Just a night of good sleep.

Find at The Vitamin Shoppe, or check out their website.

I know I sound like an infomercial. I’m not being paid for promotion. I promise. These two products just really, really work for me and I want to share them with you. 

And let me throw in a little disclaimer: Even though these are all-natural products and I think that they are magical, I don’t take them daily. I use them only when necessary. All-natural or not, I don’t think it’s a good idea for my body to become completely dependent on supplements to sleep or find energy. And I’ve never actually taken them on the same day, so I don’t know how they would react with each other.

But if you are like me, occasionally you need a little help. I hope these favorites of mine will help you!

Share with me: What natural supplements do you take that you love?

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The Tower of “Babble”– What Did You Say?

I had a crazy dream the other night.

It was one of those dreams that sticks with you. One that you wish you could psycho-analyze so that you could better understand the subconscious.

In my dream, I was speaking Spanish. Fluently.

How weird is that?

I did minor in Spanish in college, but college was a while a few years ago, and I haven’t really practiced much. I certainly wouldn’t label myself as being anywhere near fluent.

Just a few hours before I had this crazy dream, I was reading a Bible story to my kids–it happened to be the story of the Tower of Babel. (Again, I think there are crazy things going on in the subconscious here…)

I explained how the people built a tower to heaven, claiming to want to be like God, to receive his glory merely for their ability to construct.

And when God gave them different languages, suddenly, construction fell apart.

But how did God do it? How did the people go from understanding each other perfectly one day to complete confusion between the tongue and ears the next? A flip of a switch somewhere in the brain?

And then I have that crazy dream where I’m speaking Spanish. And all the people around me are, too, and yet we understand each other. And in the dream, I knew Spanish was not my first language, and I realized that ability to speak and understand the language so well was pretty cool.

And since the dream stuck with me, it got me thinking–maybe somewhere in our subconscious we do have the ability to understand each other. Perhaps that switch, the one God flipped, hasn’t been removed from us completely, but is in there, waiting to be flipped the other way. Perhaps we do have the ability to comprehend and communicate in whatever language we choose, without having to study or master it. But God has turned it off as punishment for man’s arrogance at the Tower of Babel, and someday he’ll turn it back on.

Someday when we’re all in heaven, there were be no language barrier among believers. There will be no need to have to learn new languages in order to communicate.

Instead, we’ll all speak the language of God fluently.

For now, I’ll hope I have more dreams like the one I had. I’d like to master French and Italian in those. At least I know that somewhere, deep down, I might have the capability to do it.

It makes me wonder what other God-secrets are hidden in our subconscious, waiting to be unlocked.

Share with me: What other God-secrets do you think might be hidden in our subconscious brains? If you could choose one language (other than your own) to be fluent in, which would you choose and why?

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