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Lessons I Want My Children to Learn: Patriotism

Do you know the difference between Memorial Day and Veteran’s Day? Other than one is in May and one is in November, I mean. 🙂

When I was teaching high school history, I always made it a point to teach the origins behind these important days.

Memorial Day, as the name suggests, is the US national holiday in which we remember and honor those who have fallen in service to our great nation.

It began during the Civil War as Decoration Day, when women would decorate the graves of the fallen soldiers with flowers and other mementos. As the years went on and the US was involved in more wars, the holiday adapted and in the late 1960’s, was officially assigned to the last Monday in May when the nation would remember all service members who had died in any war in our nation’s history.

Veteran’s Day, as the name suggests, honors all active and retired veterans of all wars in our history. This date came about from Armistice Day of WWI, (November 11, 1918, 11 am) when an armistice (cease-fire) was declared, eventually leading to the end of the war in 1919.

As time goes on, it seems that the reasons behind Memorial Day, July 4th, and Veteran’s Day have become somewhat mashed together and given Americans a reason to have a day off of work and a cookout.

I’m okay with that. I love cookouts. I love the American tradition of hotdogs and hamburgers by the pool. It’s fun. It’s America.

I’m even mostly okay with the confusion between Memorial Day and Veteran’s Day, because both honor those who have served.

I am not okay with the general public not knowing the history behind our Independence Day celebrations of July 4th. You might be surprised how many people do not have a basic understanding of this momentous day. Yeah, it’s actually different from the other two, but I’ll save that history for another post.

One of the lessons I want to instill into my children is patriotism.

I don’t believe enough people in America actually appreciate America anymore. Somewhere along the way, we’ve lost our understanding of exactly what it means to be free. We’ve lost our sense of duty–we’ve lost our sense of honor.

There was a time when young men stood up, eager to serve. Most of the teens I taught were petrified of serving in the military– the idea was laughable.

Several times I had to combat the idea that serving in the military was only for “stupid” people who couldn’t get into college.

“Do stupid people win wars?” I’d ask.

As a military brat, I have to admit, it was difficult for me to keep my cool in the classroom when this subject came up–more often than I’d like to acknowledge. (I’d like to believe people are smarter than to think the military is only for “dummies”, but alas, many are not.)

I was raised in a military home, with a tradition of military service and the idea that serving our nation was honorable, desirable, and respected.

Although my husband is not military, I want my children to grow up with this same belief.

My husband actually teaches middle school, which is another position to be greatly respected. 🙂 He definitely serves his nation, folks.

My son’s great-grandfathers served in WWII. Their grandfather (my dad) served in Desert Storm. Their uncle (my brother) is currently serving his country.

The idea that standing up for the values that America was built on, what our forefathers believed in when they drafted the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution, is something to be admired.

While politics seem to continue to make a mess of the values that bore this nation, I want my sons to have an understanding of where we’ve come from, our history, our traditions, and what it really means to be an American.

I want them to believe that America is great. I want them to know it. I want them to be proud of all those who came before us, establishing this great nation. I want them to be proud to be an American.

So yes, we will be cooking out hamburgers this Memorial Day.

But we’ll also be talking about what it means to serve our country. We’ll talk about military service, an option that will be their choice someday, and we will talk about how even at their young ages, we can pray for our leaders, pray for our nation, and pray for those who have served, are serving, and for the families who love them.

Share with me: What’s your favorite thing about being an American?

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The Benefits of A Mind-cation. Have You Taken One This Week?

As I mentioned in a post earlier this week, I’ve been sick.

It happens maybe twice a year that I’m sick for more than a 24 hour period. Usually I can fight through whatever germ is attacking me. After all, stay-at-home Mommy doesn’t have any time banked up to take a day off. (Boo).

Unfortunately, this mega-cold is determined to hang on to the insides of my head regardless of the medicinal and homeopathic tactics I use to thwart it.

Sometimes I think a minor illness like this can be the way God gets us to take a necessary rest.

I don’t know about you, but my life has felt like quite a whirlwind lately. My calendar has been full, any free-time has been quickly gobbled up by people who demand my attention, and my writing time has been nearly non-existent. And I’m pretty sure that my house is going to revolt against me if I don’t clean it soon.

Because both my mind and my body have been going at the speed of light for weeks, perhaps I wasn’t allowing myself any moments to rejuvenate, to refresh, to recharge–and God took over and shut me down.

All of me.

Just ask my hubby. He came home from work yesterday to find me feverish, my glazed eyes fixed on the TV screen, my body huddled under a blanket (although it’s about 90 degrees outside) begging for him to take the kids so that I could go to bed at 6 pm.

Pretty.

But in these past few days where I’ve been down, it’s been kind of nice to rest and focus on…nothing. Although I haven’t been able to completely slow down because my children do have some necessary requirements, it’s been somewhat nice to step away from some of my regular responsibilities and take a mini mind-cation.

Everyone needs a mind-cation, even if it’s just for one day. One night. One thirty-minute period where you simply block out all the demands on your life and focus on…nothing.

The Benefits of a Mind-cation:

1. Staying Healthy. Stepping away from the stress, even for 1 day, is good for your body. Stress can damage your heart and weaken your immune system (I’m a perfect example of a weakened immune system right now).

2. Reprioritizing. In the heat of the moment, every task seems vital. Step away from the chaos. Block it out, even for a short time so that when you come back to it, you can look over the list of demands on your life and focus on the ones that are most important.

3. Eliminating stress. When you are recharged, you can reprioritize (as #2 states) and you might find that some of the things on your to-do list can be eliminated. Or as you complete the tasks at the top of your list, you’ll whittle down the demands placed on you.

4. Moments of Brilliance. Even though I’ve been a mental zombie for a few days, I can’t turn off the story ideas that are dancing in my head. But I was too tired to focus on more than one thing, so I was letting my characters roam freely in my brain without interference from any other thoughts and BANG– they created a fantastic new plot line that hadn’t occurred to me when my mind was focused on 4803692 different things.

5. Family peace. Mommy’s too tired to care if the toys are picked up, the beds are made, or if everyone makes it to the 50 zillion events we have going on. Mommy has slowed down long enough to cuddle with the kiddos instead of folding the 20 loads of laundry that await.

Share with me: Other than sickness, what are the methods you use to recharge when your life feels out of control?

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Mom-isms That Defy Explanation

I hope you all enjoyed a wonderful Mother’s Day celebrating your motherhood, or celebrating the one who bore you.

My mom is my best friend. She’s a wonderful grandmother, and an incredible example of a godly lady. I’m thankful to get to celebrate her everyday, not just one Sunday a year.

I don’t know about you, but when I was growing up, especially in my teen years, I remember thinking, “When I’m a mom, I’m going to do things so differently…”

And yet here I am, becoming more and more like my own mother with every passing minute.

The difference is that now I celebrate it, because the maturity that comes with motherhood makes me appreciate my mom for everything she is and all that she’s done.

Becoming more and more like my mom is something I love– something I appreciate–something I strive to do.

And like many of you, sometimes I open my mouth to speak and my mom jumps out.

You know what I’m talking about. Those weird mom-isms that sometimes make no sense, but are effective tools for refereeing, disciplining, and explaining life.

You have any of those?

Here’s my personal favorite:

“I’m going to ______ your ______ in about five seconds.” (Insert WHATEVER you like into the blanks as the situation warrants.)

For example:

Kid: Mom, I’m not eating this spinach.

Mom: I’m going to spinach your spinach in about five seconds.

???

I love it. My mom used to use this phrase all the time with us kids, inserting anything and everything that applied to the moment, especially as a threat when we were acting up.

“I’m going to stink your stink in about five seconds.”

“I’m going to not get a bath your not get a bath in about five seconds.”

“I’m going to homework your homework in about five seconds.”

Yep, makes no sense.

But this phrase, when used in a warning tone, was totally, completely, and wholly effective with the three of us kids. It defies explanation.

And I totally said it the other day to my son.

“I’m going to tired your tired in about five seconds. Get up and finish cleaning the playroom.”

Yep. Open mouth, out jumps mom.

Share with me: What mom-isms have you inherited from your own mother?

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